March 27, 2017

Staying true to you…


“Keeping things real” is sometimes easier said than done, amiright? Social media nowadays has pushed us to a point where “fake it ’till you make it” becomes so entangled with reality that it literally obliterates any chance for us to show our true colors and, what’s worse, we start to believe we really don’t want to. Staying true to what drives us and who we really are is often times harder than we think but, a bit of effort on our parts and sometimes, even, a push in the right direction from life itself, will aid greatly.

For me, it really has been about trial and error. Through Instagram, I have come to realize who my audience really is (a very eclectic mix of fashion bloggers, mommy bloggers, fashion mommy bloggers and …my family ha!). And so, over the past two years I’ve come to realize that there are certain things  about me that appeal more to those who engage with me and that I really shouldn’t shy away from them.

For one thing I am as sarcastic and foul mouthed as can be and this is something I’ve tried to hide so much about myself but over the past few months I said to hell with it: this is who I am and why should I not show myself just as it is. Some people may not like it but honestly I am not for everybody. And that’s ok. I come from an upbringing where my mom would curse like crazy and my dad didn’t like it one bit. So there was a disjunctive about how I was supposed to behave and how I really wanted to express myself.

Another thing I’ve been focusing on is If I feel like sharing my thoughts on a particular subject, I don’t want to hold back on posting my views on a particular subject. A LOT of people might feel “offended” or “disagree” or their “douche-y” personalities might come through but I can’t let those things deter me from having a voice. This is a space where I can feel free to say what I want, in the most respectful and diplomatic way possible and so it is what I aim for.

It is a tricky journey, capturing your true self in front of a world of people that don’t know absolutely anything about you but are constantly judging your life based on a damn picture, regardless of the caption you use or however best you try to explain yourself through your Instagram stories. Go figure. You can’t always win with everyone but you can win with yourself. And that is good enough.

Until we meet again,

Raquel

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March 14, 2017

Palm Beachin’ it…


Hey peeps!

Hot damn! It’s been a minute, huh? Well, what can I say? I’m a busy working gal with a fiery toddler to boot and this whole “juggling time to the best of my abilities”thing ain’t easy. I don’t care who says “You have as many hours in a day as Beyonce”, girlfriend has a whole damn entourage to keep her sane, so no, she doesn’t do it all on her own, so no: we don’t have the same hours. She obviously has many more than the rest of us! ha…

Anyhoo, besides my super busy lifestyle and lack of hours to spare in the day for leisurely things, I AM on spring break as we speak, so the hubs and I decided it was about damn time we did a little “escapade” (yes, with our son in tow!), and hit the pedal to the metal out of Orlando for a day. We settled on Palm Beach, one of the quintessential southernmost cities in Florida because, honestly, everyone raves about how beautiful it is and let me tell you: they aren’t lying. The vibe is very chic and posh and the architecture is beyond breathtaking: spanish with a hint of art deco. Perfection. There are cute little corners and hidden passages all along the town and the gem of it all is finding your way down at the beach. Of course, some people may disagree with me on that one and say the stores on Worth Avenue are the real gems but that may be the case when I can actually afford to go into a Chanel store and actually purchase at least a key chain. I must say, when we first got there, we felt a bit out of place because we were the only ones walking around with a toddler and a stroller and my husband said to me “babe, everyone is looking at us funny”, I thought “nah, hunny, you’re just imagining things” but deep down I was wishing someone other than us would appear with a kid or two. They eventually did. And I almost ran over to kiss them! Hallelujah!! We ended up having a late lunch in Bricktop’s and it was just heaven! It is a must to visit this restaurant if you guys ever go. Definitely order the banana brioche french toast or the eggs benedict. You won’t regret it.

All in all, I really enjoyed it. Lucas absolutely went crazy when he saw the beach and my heart was so happy seeing him running around the sand and getting his feet in the water. We are definitely planning a second visit here and maybe next time with a wad of cash to spend on that Chanel key chain, ha!

‘Til next time,

Raquel

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February 13, 2017

My funny valentine…

 

 

Hey guys!

So, yes. I know. It’s been a while since my last post and I honestly have to apologize for having have had it been so long since I last posted. I’ve seriously been super busy with work and just have had little to no time for scheduling any posts. But I told my husband we had to do something cute for Valentine’s Day. I just could not let this day pass by without a little post because it honestly is one of my favorite holidays. I am all for love, people, and these two dudes here are just about the perfect definition of what love is to me.

Valentine’s day has definitely changed for us since the arrival of our little dude but I honestly feel all for the better. His is at the cutest age ever where he is beginning to understand the celebration of holidays and festivities and it’s so cute when he asks “what’s that mommy?” anytime he sees special holiday decorations whenever we go to places like Target or Walmart or the mall. He really takes it all in and I cannot wait until he is in school and celebrates all these festivities with his teachers and friends.

How do you guys celebrate Valentine’s Day? Whatever you do, hope it is filled with love and laughter with the ones you love.

Xoxo,

Raquel

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January 23, 2017

Feelin’ girly…


Not gonna lie: these jeans are the only ones that fit me right now. So with that being said, I decided it was time to make ’em a bit more posh and decided I needed some girly top (sparkles were out of the question) so the next best thing was definitely lace. Anytime I wear anything lace-y I instantly feel “girlied” up and, honestly, it’s so damn sexy in my opinion but it can look cheap very quickly, if you ask me. I absolutely am all about the “you don’t have to put it all out there” manner of dressing when it comes to looking sexy or feeling girly. Keeping this in mind, wearing my husband’s jeans, making them my own and adding pieces such as this top (Zara, sold out) and platform heels are a subtle way of achieving the aforementioned and not being so obvious about it. Of course, it’s all about how you feel and present yourself. The confidence you exude when you put something on is what will make you attractive in the long run.

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January 9, 2017

Giving myself time…




Here’s a crazy thought: staying calm, cool and collected on the most anxiety ridden of days will be your claim to fame on 2017. Well, for me this a personal feat that I will be working to accomplish this year. You see, this is not me. At all. I am and have always been the anxious beast who sends channels her super anxious powers to anyone and anything who is willing to partake in it. And many a times, it can be quite debilitating.

In my case, I have learned to control it to a point where I can be productive enough to get what I need done. I am a perfectionist and extremely hard on myself. And as you can imagine, now that motherhood is in the picture, it has reached an all new exciting *not* level. Starting a new job in my field of school psychology has been a true blessing but has also contributed to me experiencing new levels of anxiety. Since I had been out of the field for so long (5+ years), I absolutely felt out of place and in need to catch up. Fast. You would think that someone in my field would know how to handle all the aforementioned but textbook knowledge can only get you so far when you experience these things IRL.

With all this said, I have decided to take a moment and give myself time. I am at a point in my life where it becomes tiresome to keep up with everything I believe everyone else expects of me. I suppose this is how I have been living my life for the past few years and it finally caught up with me.  My subconscious is finally saying “take control of what you want”. So I am. Mind you, it is no easy task but little by little I am discovering that unbinding myself from what I believe are other’s expectations of myself has allotted me a new perspective on how I want to view my life and how I want things to play out for ME. This is a new chapter. One that I can get on board and be content with. Up to now, it feels pretty damn good.

I appreciate those of you who wholeheartedly (and genuinely) reach out with words of kindness. They never go unnoticed and and I am grateful to connect with many of you who share your similar woes with me here on my blog and on social media and I wish to not only continue nurturing those relationships but also wish for you the very best in everything you have proposed to achieve for yourself. You will do it. No doubt about that.

‘Til next time,

Raquel

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January 3, 2017

roadtrip: st. augustine, fl.

Hey guys!

First post of 2017 and we’re off to exciting beginnings! Well, on the 1st of january, the hubs, Lucas and I went on a little roadtrip to St. Augustine after several of my work colleagues had insisted I go during winter break. My husband had been there before a long time ago so he said we had to go because it is such a pretty little town and very spur of the moment decided to jump in the car and head out there.

Initially, we wanted to go see the Castillo San Marcos fort that the town is so famous for but we got there around 2:00pm and it started pouring raining and had to wait in the car for like a half hour until it stopped. Once we were able to leave the car, we just decided to walk around the town and sightsee because it is literally the cutest little town I’ve seen in a while. There are so many cultures intertwined in the feel of the town (french, german, cuban, spanish, you name it) and there’s such richness to the vibe of the town that we really just felt so at ease just walking around and taking it all in. Needless to say, Lucas was loving it, too! I also love that so many families go there so there are other children walking around with their families and it feels like such a nice place to just chill, grab a bite (and a drink ha!) and just play tourist for the day. We decided we needed to go again soon because there are the cutest (not even kidding) bed and breakfast inns I have ever seen in my life and you can literally just wake up and go walk around all day because at every corner there is am adorable shop to go into or place to grab a yummy bite. We ate at this place called Barley Republic Irish Pub & Oyster House and seriously had some delish street pork tacos (the hubs had fish and chips which were insanely good). No pics on the food included here because our camera decided to die on us by the time we sat down to eat.

So if you’re planning on a trip to florida, make it a point to go to this part of the state because you will seriously not regret it.

‘Til next time,

Raquel

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December 30, 2016

as the year ends…

Pictures by : Abby Cox

Hey guys!

Well, here we are: another year has passed and we’re all ready to welcome the next one. At least I am.

I must say it has been quite a rollercoaster of a year for my family and I, many ups and downs, expectations that weren’t fulfilled but looking back at the things that didn’t come into fruition I am thankful for them not having made it into my life because of three reasons: a) I wasn’t ready for them, b) God had something better for me or c) i was being kept from something that would’ve potentially harmed me or my family.

A couple of years ago, during one of my birthdays, my husband and I went for dinner in Old San Juan and a man on the streets approached me and asked if he could read my tarot cards for me. I was kind of skeptical but nonetheless I obliged and said yes. A lot of things he told me I already knew but many I just thought “yeah right, none of that’s gonna happen”. But, one thing I distinctly remember him saying to me was this: “a lot of things in your life are going to happen that you will feel like you don’t deserve or that opportunities have passed you by or that you won’t get a second chance but in the long run you will see that what didn’t play out the way you wanted will come back as a second chance even better than your expectations were initially. In your heart, you will see and understand why it played out the way it did.” Flash forward 5 years later and everything he said has come to be just like he said. Lots of disappointments but within them many hidden blessings.

I share this story with you because I am not much of a planner. Whenever I try to force something or give it too much structure, it feels constricted and immediately it falls apart. A lot of things I have accomplished because I have taught myself to believe that when you want something badly enough, your faith and courage will lead you to where you need to be. I’ve learned to be guided by my dreams which are enough for me to fuel a fire strong enough to work for a certain goal. I have worked hard for the things I have accomplished with no grandiose expectations, just my heart and intuition leading me along the way. I have failed A LOT OF TIMES, cried and asked “why not me?, why not now? it’s not fair”. But then I say to myself “get yourself together and get back up. There’s something better. Go get it.” And 10/10 times there always is. 10/10 times what I gained in my loss was far better than what I could’ve ever imagined. I suppose this is what that man was trying to tell me. Every dream you have will come to be because of the faith you have in yourself to achieve them. No amount of planning will take you as far as the confidence you have in yourself to believe you are worthy of that dream.

This new year will be no different. I have no concrete plans. My only plan is to continue working my ass off for the things I love and for those I love. I will continue to grow and make mistakes, learn from them,  while paying attention and focus to the things that I know will take me where I need to go. My plan is to believe in my damn self now more than ever and have faith in God’s plan for me. It will be an amazing year. I declare it.

I wish you all many blessings and a prosperous new 2017,

Raquel

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December 25, 2016

ON CHRISTMAS MORNING



Hey Guys!

I suppose it’s been a while since I’ve been here so my apologies but the holidays and work have been so crazy that I have barely had time to comb my hair. No joke.

I hope you guys have had an amazing holiday and christmas day with the ones you love. We are just being super lazy, lounging and assembling christmas toys for lil Lucas (no, we didn’t do it ahead of time, don’t even go there) and will be going to Mass later in the evening. Vacation time is much needed right now, even if it is for a week!

Merry christmas and best wishes to you all,

Raquel

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December 8, 2016

outings with my boys

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The men in my life. How I love them so! I honestly feel like the luckiest girl to have them and wonder how I ever got so lucky. I live for downtime when I get to just get away with them and have our little outings even if we don’t go anywhere too far it doesn’t even matter. Lucas is a total homebody anyway and I would not be exaggerating if I told you at times he literally loathes going out. As long as we are around, he is so happy and doesn’t even need to leave our apartment. But when he does, boy does the kid have fun! He is ever the little social butterfly and will go hug every pretty girl he sees – the kid’s got good taste, I’ll tell you that much, ha!! These pics were taken a little over two weeks ago while we did a little xmas shopping and it was a little colder so that’s why you see me – finally! – rockin’ my tall boots and sweater (Zara-sold out). Right now it’s hot af AGAIN but regardless, keeping my hopes up for chillier weather in the weeks to come.

Hope you guys have an amazing rest of your weeks,

Raquel

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November 30, 2016

Irresistible Me Jade ceramic brush

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What is it about pretty hair that makes women feel like they could take on the world? I, for one, am the type that as long as my hair is feeling fresh, sleek and healthy am able to keep everything else pretty simple and low key because I know my hair will do all the talking. That just stepped out of the salon feeling is something that always makes me feel like a million bucks and I absolutely love it.

A while back, I was asked to try out Irresistible Me’s Ceramic straightening brush and was pretty excited to receive it because I had seen similar ones in retail and department stores but was skeptical to buy one for myself. Normally, I like to wear my hair straight (I usually blow dry and use a straightening iron afterwards) but my hair is super thick and has a bit of wave so it takes me a looong time to get my hair just the way I like it. I honestly thought a brush like this could would not be able to tame my hair or the amount of thickness I have going on but boy was I wrong.

I set out to let my hair air dry after I showered in the morning. Since I get keratin treatment done on my hair the volume and waviness has reduced quite a bit so this made using the brush even better. If you’re wondering if you chemically process your hair and/or dye it and can use the brush the answer is YES!! The brush has a digital control panel on the left side and you can heat it up to 45o°F which I love because – and don’t judge – my hair needs a lot of heat to get it the way I want it. The brush has the ceramic bristles which are the ones responsible for delivering the smoothing to the hair strands but it also has protective, longer bristles which guard you from getting burnt while you are maneuvering the brush all over your hair. Another thing I love is the swivel cord which makes moving around while doing your hair such a breeze. Overall, I would say I spent a half hour less styling my hair with the brush than what I would normally spend with the blow dryer AND straightening iron

The end result? Super soft sleek hair with just the right amount of volume and tons of shine, just the way I like it. And the best part is I can use it as often as I want whenever I need to tame my hair a bit but am in a hurry and I know I will get great results.

I definitely loved integrating this product to my hair routine and I know you guys will love it, too.

‘Til next time,

Raquel

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